Originally, I was going to use this month’s keeping it real to show you the messy state of my house. I have had some other thoughts that I wanted to share and have a discussion with you all about. It has to do with aging in our society.
I am now 41, very close to 42. In my opinion, I am still young. I plan to live a long life and have a ton of living yet to do. The thing that is interesting is seeing my body begin to show signs of aging. It can sometimes be a bit disconcerting to see wrinkles slowly appearing. Seeing my hair slowly become more grey. Sometimes I even feel a little bit of panic. I’m still young, still feel young…I want to look young.
The thing I don’t get is why we value this looking young so much in our society. You know what, we are all going to get old or we will die before we do. So going with the fact that we are all going to get old, it is a part of the process of life. Why then should I strive to look young and hide my age? Why should I spend a fortune on wrinkle creams? Can I actually avoid getting wrinkles? I have yet to see someone in their 70’s, 80’s, or 90’s who doesn’t have wrinkles.
The fact is, if I am going to live a long life, I’m going to spend a lot of my life wrinkled and grey. It is just the natural order of things and all the wrinkle cream in the world can’t change the work of nature. Now this is not to say that I’m going to just let myself go and run around doing things to look and feel older, but when I look in the mirror and I notice a new wrinkle that is slowly forming, I try to remind myself that this is what is supposed to happen.
That is the thing I don’t get about the society in which we live. Why don’t we celebrate the wrinkles, for the wrinkles come with a life lived. Just look at the beauty in the various ages of my family with my Grandma a few years ago. So much love and wisdom sitting on that couch. Wouldn’t it look strange to see my Grandma or my parents looking as young and smooth skinned as my children?
The wrinkles, grey hair, and aging are supposed to happen. Maybe they show that you spent tons of time outside climbing and hiking, doing things you love. Maybe they show the cute way you chew on a pencil when you are thinking. Maybe they show how you love to laugh and smile. I know they show a life well lived. I know the wrinkles and the grey hair show a wealth of knowledge. Wisdom learned from living life.
I wouldn’t change being my age for anything. I love and am proud to be in my forties. I have so much knowledge and wisdom that I didn’t have twenty years ago. I am so much more at peace with myself and content with my life. Sure there are tons of things that are hard or a work in progress, but I love who I have grown to be. In my opinion that only comes with age.
I think as a society and particularly as women, we need to embrace this change. We need to embrace the idea…no the fact, that we will each grow older. We can embrace it and enjoy it or we can fight it. I’m working to embrace it and remind myself that it is the natural order of things. How about you? Are you at this age of change? If you are, are you fighting it or working to embrace it?